Love is in the air and we’re honoring the warm-and-fuzzies all month long at our studios and online. First, we’re delving into the idea of self-love and what it means to some of our favorite women. Co-founder Tanya Becker is kicking things off. For her, self-love is best exemplified with this quote: “Falling in love with yourself first doesn’t make you vain or selfish, it makes you indestructible.” We’re so excited to celebrate this month—stay tuned for more!
What does self-love mean to you?
For me, there are three parts to this: body, mind, and spirit.
1. Body: This is about being the best version of you—and that means accepting your physical body without judgments, learning to not compare yourself to others, and practicing gratitude for health and strength. It’s what I live by and what we believe at Physique 57.
2. Mind: I truly believe what you think you become. Self-love is being gentle with your thoughts; thoughts are energy. Work on changing the mental track that can sometimes be negative or self-sabotaging to thoughts of confidence and empowerment.
3. Spirit: I believe when we look out for others, our self-love “tank” gets filled up. That’s everything from volunteer work, random act of kindness to a stranger, or sending a note to someone having a tough time. These are the things that make me feel good.
What is one of your favorite rituals or routines (beauty, mindfulness, exercise, meditation) for self-care?
I take a lavender Epsom salt bath every evening. It’s rich in magnesium and sulfate, which can be absorbed through the skin and also relieves stress, reduce inflammation, and eliminate harmful toxins. I also stretch for 15 minutes after bathing while my muscles are still warm, and I try to do 10-20 minutes of meditation every morning too.
How do you balance taking care of yourself with being a busy mom?
It can be challenging with 5-year-old twins, but I’m a much better, happier mom, when I’ve taken time for myself. I have to make time for things I love to do, the things that fill my well. For me, dates and little getaways with my husband are important; they have to be planned in advance and put on the calendar or else they don’t happen.
How can you tell you need to practice or make time for self-love? Whenever I’m feeling easily agitated, low energy, or blocked creatively…
How is fitness a part of self-love for you?
Fitness is a key part of self-care and love for so many reasons—but most important, I move because I love my body, not to love my body. Staying strong physically keeps me energized and gives me a sense of achievement that carries over into everything else I do; it really improves my perspective and boosts my mental energy too. And it’s not news that the natural high and endorphins from working out relieve stress and improve endurance. Thisis so important in a hectic city like New York!